I don't think it is really important actually. If forced to take a test on relational theory - I would likely fail outright. And I'm not truly worried about it. What I've always focused on is the pragmatic stuff. I don't care (never have, well, not for many years anyway) which of the 12 rules we don't satisfy - that wouldn't make my life any better. The database has a feature set - we need to use that feature set - I go with what the database does, how the database works - not the theory about how it could/should work.
Relational is the table concept - yes. But once you have that - you have the relationships between them and you can start answering questions using relational calculus (math, set operations). So the relational bit is just the fact there are tables technically. But that doesn't get you very far - you need the relationships and everything else.
this is not a horrible description:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Relational_database