Some options, both commercial and home-grown are listed in this paper
http://www.nyoug.org/Presentations/2008/Sep/Harris_Listening%20In.pdf and a quick google turned up
http://www.whitesands.com/sql-capture/ I havent seen or used these products, so I can't give you any kind of feedback or endorsement.
I do remember such things being all the rage a number of years back, but with the increased prominence of security, I think the challenge has been that so much traffic nowadays is encrypted by default.
Depending on the level of interception etc, you might want to consider things at the database level ? eg RLS, sql translation, query rewrite, or advanced rewrite ?
Hope this helps. Others are welcome to provide their thoughts via review.